grief in the workplace

How to Handle Grief in the Workplace.

We spend more time at work than with our family or friends. It is difficult to get to know your colleagues and how they react to tragedy.

Some people withdraw completely, others try to be too involved, but the majority of people don’t know how or what to do. There is no guideline or policy that will help you deal with grief and tragedy. There is no process or system that can make the situation easier or more understandable. It can be very devastating to work when tragedy strikes.

“Grief can be unpredictable by nature. It affects people in different ways. It is extremely difficult to manage it or balance it with professional demands.”(Tigar 2021).

  • Be patient
  • Support
  • Be empathetic
  • Be authentic
  • Be present

Empathy is crucial because it allows you to switch between ‘work mode and ‘human mode. Empathy allows you to feel empathy for those who are directly affected by the situation. It also gives you space to express your feelings and emotions. Empathy allows you to be more compassionate, supportive, and present.

“Grief requires us to be more authentic, present, and real because it is the most difficult form of grief.
Often what it demands of us is our honesty, our attention, and a re-evaluation of values, all of which distract from the professional goal”, (Tigar, 2021).

These skills are not easy for everyone, and many leaders struggle to master these interpersonal skills. As a leader, it is important to model the behavior you desire. Empathy is a great way to show your strength in difficult situations.

Tragic events are not a time to return to business as usual. Each person will need your assistance to navigate the events. Your team will need to process them.

Allow your team to grieve and allow them to process. Each employee can deal with a tragedy at their own pace. Grief is not something that can be done “on the hour”. They should be able to ask questions, have conversations, and take breaks to help manage their emotions. They might become distracted or overcome by emotions, which can make it difficult for them to function well. Be aware of the signs and be alert.

Establish the right tone and pay attention to what the victim needs. Focus on the positive. Listening, really listening, and giving your team an outlet is the first step.

Remember that dealing with tragedy is not an isolated event. It will be a floodgates reopening when people return to work after a period of grief. Be patient, and let the team come together. Do not try to force closure as it might never happen.

When tragedy strikes, bad news or tragic events can expose an organization’s true nature. Your culture and core values should remain the guiding principles of your organization, in good and bad times.

Leaders may feel overwhelmed and powerless. They must take care of themselves. If one doesn’t take care of their own needs first, it is not uncommon for someone to be unable to help others. Keep in mind the safety protocol of airlines “Place your mask on first, then help others with theirs.”

The team should be mobilized to combat despair.

To channel energy towards positive outcomes, be open to employees organizing fundraisers, blood drives, or food drives. Employees can feel that they can make a difference, which can help them cope with their guilt and shame.

“Suppressed grief suffocates it, it rages inside the breast, and is forced into multiplying its strength.” Ovid

Let the situation be what it is. Do not try to avoid the situation simply because you feel uncomfortable. If you need help, seek guidance or professional assistance from your HR provider or health care provider.

Always remember that “Life happens when it’s least expected”.

working in or on your business

Working ON your Business Vs. Working IN your Business

Michael E. Gerber, a business expert and author, once stated that “if your business depends upon you, you don’t own a company – you have a job.” It’s also the most dangerous job because you work for a lunatic.

Many business owners feel overwhelmed when they open a new venture. They believe they have to do everything. They feel the need to do everything, even after years and months of business ownership. Worse, they don’t have the time or energy to focus on future opportunities, plan strategies, or grow their business. They can’t do it when they are stuck in a cycle of work IN and ON their business.

People who own businesses are often ‘doers’. They tend to get involved in a business because they love the work. However, they don’t trust others to do what they do. They are so engrossed in the minutiae of running the business that they don’t see the forest from the trees.

Business owners must not only trust their employees to manage their business but also allow them to have the time and space to grow their business. They must also make time for personal growth, networking, education, and education in order to become more effective leaders and business owners.

How can you break this cycle? How can you, as a business owner give yourself the time and space to grow your business beyond the daily grind of running it? It is all about setting boundaries and scheduling time that are specifically focused on creating strategies and planning the future. To succeed, you need to build a team.

I have published several articles and steps in June to help you build a winning group. Building a team that works together requires several key elements.

  1. Leadership is key
  2. Common Goals
  3. The Rules of the Game
  4. Clear Action Plans
  5. Support Risk taking
  6. 100% involvement/inclusion

Robert Kiyosaki is a business guru who once stated, “If your business or investment operation cannot function without you, then you are thinking too small.” Think team and systems .”

Your team will continue to learn and develop their skills, allowing them to contribute external knowledge to the organization.

As an owner, you can begin to work on your business once you have a team that is responsible for the daily operations of the company. It can be very frustrating to try and hit all the targets on your own.

Work IN Your Business Work ON Your Business
Making stuff Education and Personal Development
Delivering stuff Plan
Administrative stuff Set your goals
Invoice payment Financial forecasts and projections
Activities to hire Strategic alliances
Conflict Resolution Automating processes and setting up systems
Handling calls Strategic vision

You must set aside time and schedule the time you need to work on your business. Set a schedule to accomplish the tasks that will help you grow your company.

This system allows you to find a balance and focus on the most important job of a business owner.

  • Keep a schedule and be disciplined.
  • Even if you have perfect employees, it is likely that they will make good decisions 70% of the time. If your decisions are not perfect, your batting average will likely match theirs. So, what are you waiting for?
  • To challenge the status quo, and to expand your knowledge, you should seek out a mentor or coach.
  • Keep your eyes on the goal of your company and make sure that your actions are in line with it.
  • Be truthful with yourself. Measure your business’s performance using data and facts. Your gut feeling and intuition can only get you so far. It is important to use objective measures to evaluate performance and track progress.

You must let go all control. Take into account that only 30% of businesses make it past the 10-year mark, while 66% make it to the 2-year mark. This is due to the fact that very few business owners invest the 20% required time in their businesses, which contributes to businesses falling (Gamechanger, 2019).